Hello + happy May! Spring is definitely thriving in Oklahoma; flowers are blooming and trees are coming back to life. With the warmer weather, schedules + agendas become busier and before we know it, autumn is here. However, I’d like to take a moment to remind you that it is so important to embrace and enjoy each season. This means, not only the physical season but also the season of life you’re currently in.
All too often, we set goals or wait to enjoy life when a certain time or event occurs. For instance, I’ve heard my friends say, “I’ll be happy when I have $xxxx in my savings account” Or “I will finally be able to enjoy life when I’ve lost xx pounds.” Don’t get me wrong; I too, used to fall for these mindsets. I once said, “I’ll be happy when I’m done with college and don’t have to worry about juggling school-work and a full-time job, anymore.” However, with a little practice, you too, can learn to grab life by the horns and enjoy the season (of life) you’re in, to its greatest potential.
A little backstory: I am the world’s worst at trying to be superwoman and take on ALL of life’s responsibilities. Like mentioned above, this takes me back to my college days, when I was working full time, taking 18+ college hours and trying to maintain a household plus ensure all of our bills were paid, on time. I’ll be the first to tell you, it took a couple crying-out loud-breakdowns to realize I’m not superwoman. I remember sitting on the corner of our bed, crying to my mom because I couldn’t handle it. I couldn't handle every single thing that needed to be done each day. At that moment I didn’t think I was cutout to be a (human) Mom, let alone just a girlfriend or wife. Then the clouds parted, and Mom said:
“It’s okay. It’s okay to ask for help. You don’t have to do this by yourself.”
Well, shit. Why hadn’t I thought about that before?
Of course, it would be easy to say that after those hopeful words, everything was fine and I could quickly let loose of that mile long to-do list that I had been clenching onto for dear life. But, we know that’s not how it works. Fast forward 5 years and I’m finally at a point in my life where I’m “okay” letting others take care of some of those day-to-day duties that once made me feel empowered and in control because I could handle it all by myself (or so I thought). Thinking back, when I was in that season of life, you know, when college is supposed to be fun! I wasn’t having fun at all. Not even in the least bit. I wish I could go back and tell myself to enjoy that season of my life a little bit more, because it won’t last long. Enjoy being an “oblivious” college student because before too long, here comes a mortgage, 401K / retirement planning, car + land payments, health insurance, etc.
Once you realize you don’t have to be everything for everyone, you can really enjoy the seasons of your life. So, please, learn from me. It’s okay to say “no” when you’re schedule is already overflowing with tasks. It’s okay to ask for help, whether it be your partner or parent(s)!
Tips for finding happiness + appreciating the season of life you’re in:
- Make a list of what is most important to you; circle the top 3 and focus your energy on these things
- Allow yourself to let go, slow down &/or ask for help
- Appreciate that the things that are important to you right now may change in the coming years and that’s okay
- Make your to-do shorter + enjoy the process of accomplishing each task
Benefits of appreciating the season of life you’re in:
- Making the most of the here and now
- Not having regrets in the future as you look back on this time in your life
- The feeling of content and happiness with life overall
Do you suffer from "superwoman syndrome"? How do you let go + work harder on the things that really matter?